Are you struggling to keep your marriage on track?

Have you been searching for a solution, but nothing seems to fully resonate or work for you?

I hear you.

It’s not pleasant when your relationship suffers. You long for your spouse to be the coolness of your eyes again, but the storm has found its way into your home, and it may feel out of control. Despite the ongoing storm, the hope in you keeps you searching for a solution.

You start a life with your spouse with beautiful intentions, yet the love and mercy that Allah placed between your hearts seem to be fading away. But why?

Each relationship is unique. Yet, many Muslim couples are experiencing similar struggles. These struggles include:

Resolving conflicts and disagreements

The egos are usually released during conflicts. Each declares, “I’m right,” with a big voice inside us. What if we shifted from checking “who is right?” to “what is right?” and let the truth be our guide?

But it’s sometimes hard to get clarity on the truth when there is so much advice about what marriage should be like. How do you find the truth? What’s your reference when resolving disagreements?

Improving our communication

It’s deeply saddening and frustrating to feel unheard by the one person you want to be heard. Could your communication improve so that you can communicate clearly and your spouse can listen effectively?

It might not be your fate to feel lonely after all…

Understanding myself/my partner better

Developing self-awareness is key to better understanding yourself, your partner, and everybody around you. But how do you do that?

Just like you go to the doctor or get bloodwork done to understand what your body needs, therapy can help you and your partner identify your unmet needs. In the hustle and bustle of our lives, we often don't take the time to pause and think about what we truly need, want, or feel is missing in our relationship or life. Therapy creates the space for those discussions to happen in a way that feels safe and supported.

Many of us come from cultures and backgrounds where we weren't taught how to check in with ourselves or ask the right questions to understand our partner's needs. This kind of communication is not typically modelled for us, so it's a skill we can learn and develop with the support of a therapist.

Balancing our roles and responsibilities

We come from a rich and diverse array of cultural backgrounds, all of which often bring with them expectations about the roles and responsibilities of a husband and wife.

But sometimes, cultural and family traditions are mistaken for religious doctrine, and a nonsense tradition is suddenly common practice. This can consume couples, blinding all parties involved, and ultimately impacting the health and well-being of the marriage.

With the support of a therapist, you and your spouse can explore the Islamic framework for a healthy marriage that is a means of happiness in both this world and the hereafter.

Cultivating love in our relationship

There are five main forms of love languages. For example, if yours is words of affirmation, you need to hear “I love you” to feel loved.

And sometimes, partners have different love languages. You might be thinking you’re going out of your way to show your love to your partner, but they might not be speaking that language!

How can you identify your love language? How did the Prophet (pbuh) show his love? Could you be labelling the halals as harams and depriving yourself and your partner of opportunities to cultivate love?

You may be experiencing any of these struggles or more. In fact, nearly every marriage will face marital conflict at some point.

Yes, it’s possible to find a solution by yourself, but it may be too tiring and take too long. You get immense relief when a trusted person helps you find your way...

You deserve to get help.

Rekindle the love and mercy in your relationship.

How can Muslim marriage counselling help?

There is too much advice out there, and sometimes they contradict each other. How do you know which one to follow?

On a daily basis, we are inundated with images, videos, and ideas of what a perfect Muslim marriage looks like – be it from social media, movies and shows, or even family and community conversations.

As a result, we often find ourselves measuring our own relationships against this perceived ideal. The disparity between our expectations and reality can be so jarring that even when there aren’t any issues in our relationship, problems arise because we are comparing our experience to a non-existent standard or ideal.

At times like this, it’s even more important to refer back to the guidance in the Qur’an and Sunnah. Our Maker knows us and our needs best and provides us with means of healing for any wounds we carry. We just need to seek treatment and support.

Relationships take work, contrary to popular belief. There is this idea that if it’s meant to be, and if both spouses are willing, the relationship should be easy and peaceful, with no problems.

A Muslim marriage therapist can support you to develop the skills and awareness to better your relationship.

Marriage counselling aligned with Islamic values can help you overcome these marital problems.

Remember we said each relationship is unique? During therapy sessions, your Muslim couples’ therapist will provide a safe space to work with you to understand the root causes of your struggles.

You will feel equipped with the tools and insights to rebuild your relationship on a stronger foundation.

When you centre Allah, the egos fade, and conflicts can be resolved... you find the courage to say sorry when you’re wrong... you find yourself and your relationship grounded.

And that’s peaceful.

Remember, going to therapy is not a sign of weakness but a courageous step towards healing and strengthening your relationship.

Connect with a therapist to heal your relationship.

What to expect in couples therapy

During therapy, you can expect to:

• Explore Your Relationship Dynamics: Understand how past experiences and current stressors impact your marriage.
• Develop Effective Communication Skills: Learn techniques to improve how you and your spouse express needs and listen to each other.
• Align with Islamic Principles: Ensure that your relationship is in harmony with your faith, using the Qur’an and Sunnah as a guide and reference.

Muslim marriage counselling isn’t just about solving problems—it’s about building a stronger, more resilient relationship that honours both your faith and your personal needs.

Common Concerns About Marriage Counselling

“I’m worried that counselling will just make things worse.”
It’s normal to feel worried about confronting difficult issues, but avoiding them often leads to more significant problems down the line. Counselling offers a supportive environment where both partners can express their feelings and work through challenges together with a professional who specializes in this area.

“What if my spouse doesn’t want to come?”
This is a common concern, but it’s important to start the conversation with your spouse. Sometimes, just one partner attending counselling can lead to positive changes in the relationship; one change in a part leads to a change in the system. This may also encourage your partner to join later.

“Isn’t marriage counselling expensive?”
We understand that therapy is an important personal investment, and we're mindful of the financial considerations it involves for our clients.

We believe that quality mental health support should be accessible to everyone, so we offer various pricing options to fit different budgets. If you have extended health benefits, you can also take advantage of them, as insurance plans often cover services provided by our therapists.

Why Choose Our Counselling Services?

Ruh Care is a trusted resource built for our community. We specialize in Muslim marriage counselling and couples therapy, understanding the blessings and challenges hidden in relationships.

While faith is central, culture plays a key role in relationship dynamics. So, we combine an Islamically aligned and culturally responsive approach, catering to your personal needs.

Take the First Step Toward a Stronger Marriage

If you’re ready to work on your relationship, we’re here to help.

You can get started by scheduling a free 15-minute intro call with a couples therapist.

Let’s discuss how we can support you in your journey to a healthier, happier marriage.